Ask The Salty Waitress: What can I do about a really cold restaurant?

Dear Salty I’m one of those people who’s more sensitive to cold than other people so if my friends think a restaurant is a little chilly I’m completely freezing. Now that it’s November this marks the dreaded start of Cold Restaurant Season. No matter how many layers I wear I always encounter at least one restaurant each winter that is just uncomfortably cold for me. What can I do once I’m already seated beyond sit and shiver? How much can I reasonably expect the restaurant to do? I’d rather not wear my down winter coat while eating dinner.

Icy In Illinois

Hey Icy

I’ll assume you’ve ruled out a medical condition (like Raynaud’s which my girl friend has) and that you’re just One Of Those Cold People. Short of praying for serious menopausal hot flashes you can do a couple things to make your dinner more comfortable.

Here’s a big ol’ caveat before we get started though: Your definition of cold isn’t everyone’s definition of cold. You said so yourself. If the other people at your table think the temperature is fine you’re going to have a hard time convincing the restaurant to turn up the heat. If you’re always much colder than everyone you’re out with I’m sorry to say it but: That sounds like a you problem. It wouldn’t be fair to ask the restaurant to turn up the heat and make everyone too warm right? I’ve dealt with my share of elderly guests who bless them complain that they’re cold all the time. I’m sweating like a whore in mass and they’re dramatically pulling their sweaters around themselves and asking if I couldn’t just turn it up a little? They’re not happy until the next table over faints with heat stroke.

But if your friends are all in agreement that yes it’s like a damn catacomb in there then there’s a few things you can do.

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